Think about a time you were really down, a time when you were so filled with despair that you had no idea how you would rise again –
Are you still in that place?
What helped you get up?
What did you learn about yourself by how you rose up from that darkness?
It is a spiritual principle that there is an essential ebb and flow in life. We see it in waves lapping the shore and receding, or in our very breath – inhale, exhale.
In the same way that we can’t keep the waves on the shore, we must surrender to a rhythm that is beyond us.
This principle is on my mind because we are in a time when many of us feel great despair. Many of us are wondering how and when we will recover.
I spoke to a woman the other day who lost her husband when he was 52, and she was 48. I asked her how she dealt with that loss. She told me that at the time, she was so bereft that as she sat on her front steps and watched people laughing as they walked past, she felt that that could never be her again. How could they be going on like nothing has happened while her entire life was shattered?
However, eventually and in her own time, she got up from that place. She moved to England, and met a man who was lovely and with whom she had another whole happy life!
Faith Can Be Found In Your Own Experience
The reason we were in this conversation was that we were at a political event, and the conversation at our table turned to how devastated, sad, and depressed many of us are about the state of being in our country.
I believe we will rise up again. Yes, it is good to name the feelings of the moment – do not deny the sadness or pain. However, to get through, we must take a wider view and choose to put our faith in the principle that like our breath, we will exhale again, after holding our breath for so long.
Each one of us has a story about when we thought we’d never rise again – and yet, most of us did. Use this memory to give you faith.
It is vital to take a wide view, to believe that one day, we will all look back at this disturbing time in our history, and see that it was like a wave that stayed too long on the beach, that did a lot of damage, but it eventually receded back into the ocean and we restored what was broken and healed.
May it be so.
(This month in our Hineni – I am present – Mindfulness Community, this principle is the theme and we will focus on how to implement this idea in our own lives. If you would like to join us, find out more here. We meet Tuesday night at 6 pm Pacific.)
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